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If you understand, things are just as they are…

If you do not understand, things are just as they are.

Zen proverb

Life happens.  No matter how hard we try to control it the Universe marches on with or without our acceptance.  As human beings we attach our lives to expectations and outcomes.  This creates suffering in our lives as we cling to this illusion of permanence.  We expect, we suffer.  We attach, we suffer.  We ask questions such as “Why is my life like this?” Or, “Why did this happen to me?”

Asking these questions and expecting life to be a certain way is fighting the Universe in its entirety.  No wonder life feels heavy, and difficult.  We struggle and resist to the very end.  We tell our stories over and over again about how much pain we have and how we wish things were a certain way.  Life is the way it is no matter our thoughts or emotions.  It just is.  Our suffering is a direct correlation to our resistance to this truth.

Over the past few months I have been listening to this conversation in my interactions.  I am amazed at how resistant human beings we can be.  I hear comments such as “I don’t want to ask as I am afraid of the answer.”  “My life would be fine if I could only have it this way.”  Or “Why does this stuff keep happening to me?”  These words are lyrics to the song of victims and as victims this becomes the only song we hear.  Our life becomes this melody of complaints and ‘what ifs’ and our existence, our way of being becomes anger, bitterness and resistance.  Life passes before us in complaints, unhappiness and perceived pain.

We miss life.  We miss the gifts in front of us at every moment.  At this very moment you are surrounded by amazing beings in this world.  You may not even see them.  Look….look again….plants, animals, the rain, the beautiful cloud above, amazing human beings sitting next to you who want to transform this world.  Yet, it is as if we are blind.  We cling to an expected way of being that equals happiness in our minds and we suffer.

I have two comments for you.  One, your life is not as difficult as you have created the story around it.  Yes, some people have gone through very difficult things in their lives.  These things do not make a human being and these things are not existing at this moment….and, trust me when I say this, there are beings on this planet that have gone through far worse than you have.  I have seen the boys of Sudan whose families were murdered, they were forced into being child soldiers, yet after all of this they smile.  They exist.  They see gratitude and beauty in this world through all of the pain that they went through.  Second, Life is beautiful.  Rid yourself of the stories and expectations.  Fill your world with gratitude, compassion and love and your world will transform before your very eyes.  You will beam with happiness.  You will be present to the gift that has been given to you.

The Universe has spoken directly to you.  Everything that has happened has happened exactly the way it has supposed to, exactly.  Every moment has created an experience to learn, to accept, to love.  Your life is a choice in acceptance or resistance.  Happiness and peace versus pain.  Let go, be present, have gratitude and accept life.  You are beautiful exactly the way you are.  Your life is perfect exactly the way it is.

I have such gratitude in who you are and what you are creating in this world.  In choosing acceptance, love, and gratitude you are changing the world.  You are leading this world into a state of harmony.

I love you for this.

Call to Action:

    • Things are just as they are….ACCEPT LIFE.  Let go and accept life exactly the way as it is, not the way you expect it to be.
    • Let go…truly let go and BE….Be happy….Be Love….You alone choose your existence, your circumstances have nothing to do with your way of being.  Choose happiness, choose peace, choose love.  BE.
    • Live life in a state of gratitude.  Be grateful for everything that happened and happens in your life.  You will want to resist this.  Do not allow yourself to do this, you are up to a bigger game in life.  Be GRATEFUL for EVERYTHING that exists in your life.  Living in a state of gratitude will transform your life.

Thomas D. Craig

Author A Cup of Buddha