Have you ever noticed the freedom of a child. They run, they play, they splash, they create. Making a mistake does not exist in their minds. The world exists as a giant sandbox to explore and create. There is no failure. There is only the concept of WHAT IF? If a particular what if doesn’t work as planned they move onto the next what if without creating meaning or personal failure. Life is a game to these children. This is why children jump out of bed in the morning. Who wouldn’t want to live in this world full of creation and the ability to be and do anything their minds create?
Over time we become tainted. We make meaning of words and comments said to us. We worry about what others think and how we might look. We create filters for this world. It is the same world as a child but now we have different glasses on. People don’t seem as nice. The world isn’t as FUN anymore. We become reserved….safe…..REASONABLE. We live in our mental context of right and wrong and we become afraid to make mistakes. We act the way we think we are supposed to act, or how we think others expect us to act. On the outside we have the look as if everything is under control yet we are like the duck on the water, everything visible is calm yet underneath the legs of the duck are paddling ferociously. Our life becomes routine, mundane….rational. Inside we feel chained and lifeless. We feel afraid to explore and experience, truly experience life and relationships.
Buddhist monks meditate to reach a childlike state. This is a state free from the attachments that our mind clings to as we grow older. This state of freedom is a state of joy, a state of spontaneity, a state of FREEDOM. This is the freedom that Gandhi talks about when he says freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.
Let go of right and wrong. Let go of having to do things right. Let go of LOOKING GOOD. Let go of expectations in how life is supposed to go.
Call to Action:
Make as many mistakes as possible. When we make mistakes we are pushing the envelope, we are putting ourselves out there. Find the FREEDOM in making mistakes.
Be unreasonable. Be spontaneous. Be a child. Let yourself go completely. Catch yourself saying NO to something because you are trying to look good….SAY YES!!! Sing, Dance….Jump in the puddle of life.
Be well….Be Love
Thomas D. Craig
Author of A Cup of Buddha
Writer. Seeker. Explorer